Support Robert Seth Hayes – Hallmark Doesn’t Make the Birthday Card that I Need


Author: Crystal M. Hayes, MSW – 4/20/2017

I turn 47 years-old in a short couple of weeks and Hallmark doesn’t make the birthday card that I need.

I will likely celebrate my birthday the same way I have for most of my life, particularly in recent years.

I will wake up — God willing.

I will walk my dog — or maybe we’ll go for a run.

I will talk to my daughter.

I will read birthday cards.

Among those cards, there will undoubtedly be one from my father. Every year for the past 40 plus years, like clock-work, he remembers my day. He sends me a birthday card and he makes me a promise: he promises that next year, he’ll be home to celebrate with me.

I was barely three-years old when my father was sent to prison. My small feet were still learning to thump around the house as I was just beginning to run and explore our tiny Bronx New York City apartment. I was a daddy’s girl from the very beginning, and loved playing games with dad who made sure to keep me safe. Unfortunately, that safety was quickly shattered in September 1973 when the police arrived and began shooting into our home blowing the peephole off the door. My father laid my tiny three-year old body in the bathroom tub under a mattress away from the violence. My father was arrested that day, after a 15-minute gun battle with NYPD, along with his friends and former Black Panther Party members, Avon White and Melvin Kearny. The police nearly killed my entire family that day, and everyone else in the house.

Every year, around this time, I think about my birthday not just as the day I was born, but also as the decade that marks two key moments that would come to shape the rest of my life: my father’s arrest and the period that made mass incarceration possible—both happened the decade I was born.

Understanding my father’s arrest and what drove him to be in conflict with police is hard to understand without first understanding the very volatile political and economic climate of the 1960s and 1970s. This context pushed urban communities into rebellion, as Black and Brown people felt like they had no choice but to arm themselves against an extremely aggressive and punitive Melvin Kearny.racist police system. It is no secret that New York City Police Departments in the 1960s and 1970s spied on Civil Rights groups and other political organizations like the Black Panther Party. My father was involved in direct-mobilization against police brutality and other forms of aggressive policing that targeted low-income Black and Brown communities that we still see happening today. A couple of years before the raid on our family and home, President Johnson’s administration helped to militarize the police under his aggressive “war on crime” policies that brought a largely white, heavily armed police force into Black and Brown urban communities while social service programs were being eliminated.

These policies and practices that came out of the Johnson administration led to an era of hyper-incarceration that’s grown exponentially over the past 40 years. For example, in the 1970s and 80s, there were only roughly 300,000 people in US prisons and jails—still an extremely appalling figure. Today there are more than 2.3 million people in US prisons and jails and an additional 7 million under correctional supervision. When my father was arrested, 1 in 125 minor children had an incarcerated parent. Today, 1 in 28 or 2.7 million minor children in the United States have an incarcerated parent. How we all got here is a complicated story that historian Elizabeth Hinton threads together in her brilliant 2016 book From the War on Crime to the War on Poverty. In other words, mass incarceration today is a mixture of bi-partisan efforts, racism, bad policies and broken promises, hard choices and tough decisions, neo-liberal politics, lost opportunities, and lack of imagination.

No matter how it happened, we’re now living in a world that incarcerates more people than ever before – there are more than 10.35 million people in prison (and counting) across the globe. However, the United States leads the world in incarceration rates for both men and women. In addition to my father and the growth of incarceration among men, particularly Black and Brown men, we also incarcerate more women than any other country. At the time of my father’s arrest there were under 6,000 women in US prisons and jails. Today, there are more than 200,000 women in prison, with the fastest growth beginning around the late 1980s early 1990s. When you include probation, parole, and the entire carceral system, there are more than a million women ensnared by decades of harsh criminal justice policies. This distinguishes the US from the rest of world. The US holds the unique distinction of only having 5% of the world’s women living in the US, but 30% of all women prisoners. Add to that, almost 10,000 pregnant women are incarcerated annually, and in one year, nearly 1,400 babies were born to women in US prison and jails.

The 1970s was supposed to be the best decade to be born a black girl. It was right after the Civil Rights and Voting Rights Acts were passed. It was also the decade when abortion became a constitutionally protected right. I could vote, I didn’t have to live under the dehumanization of segregation, and I could control my own fertility. It should have been the best time to be a Black girl, instead it was the decade my father was taken, and the beginning of a new era of policies and politics that helped to heighten policing of Black and Brown communities and mass incarceration today. If you were born Black and low-income after 1965 you were more likely than not to go to prison, simply because of your identity and not actual participation in crime. In other words, we know that the over-representation of Black and Brown people in prison today isn’t a function of Black crime rates, but a function of racial bias in law enforcement practices in Black neighborhoods and sentencing policies, particularly associated with the drug war.

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For the past 47 years, I’ve watched my father become an elderly man in prison with chronic illnesses and diseases that have nearly killed him. I’ve spent every holiday and special occasion without him. Still, every year, on my birthday, my father tries to make me feel as normal as possible. Every year, the phone rings and a pre-recorded voice tells me, “You have a collect call from …[in his own voice] << Seth>> … an inmate at a New York State Correctional Facility. To accept the charges dial three.” Every year, I dial three, and our 30-minute birthday call begins. He laughs and teases me about getting old, while he remains young and handsome. We talk about my birthday plans, and I mostly pretend to be happy – that I am enjoying my birthday as if there’s never been a prison separating us. I know it makes him happy to think I am happy, but in recent years it’s been more and more difficult to pretend like this is ok. I don’t always have the strength to pretend like I am happy or to even tell him the truth: that my birthday serves one purpose – I use it to track how long he’s been in prison. I don’t exactly know when or why I started this habit, but every year, I use my birthday as some sort of benchmark or milestone to mark how many years it’s been. Still, every year is the same. We talk for the entire 30-minutes. I let him mostly speak about himself, his case, parole, and his health issues. He tells me how he can’t wait to bake me a cake with my favorite sprinkles, and just as I start to get overwhelmed by my rage and tears, that pre-recorded message invades our call to tell us we have 60 seconds left to the call. We begin to speed up our conversation to try and fit in whatever last minute thing we have to say, and it never works. The final warning chimes in: you have 30 seconds remaining. We begin to say our goodbyes, and before we can hang up we’re disconnected. Our time runs out just as the air is beginning to run out of my lungs. We didn’t really get to say goodbye. The call is over, and my birthday is over.

See what I mean?

  • Where’s the birthday card for someone whose entire life has been completely distorted and shaped by the largest law enforcement system in the world and the one that was specifically designed to target Black and Brown people?
  • Where’s the birthday card for someone who can’t share a private birthday moment with her father, but instead is limited to a 30-minute state-monitored call through the prison system?
  • Where’s the birthday card for someone who has spent countless hours of her life since childhood riding overnight on a bus to a prison in upstate New York only to spend the first half of a 6 hour visit inconsolable as the trauma from childhood is revisited during every prison visit?
  • Where’s the birthday card for all the times you had your body-searched and invaded by prison guards and forced to remove your bra so that it can be searched before you can enter the prison visiting room to see your father?
  • Where’s the birthday card for someone who can’t visit with her own father without being told where to sit and how close you can sit next to him?
  • Where’s the birthday card for someone who has never ever sat at an actual dinner table with her father, only a tiny prison table, in a cold visiting room, eating stale junk food from a prison vending machine?

Where’s that birthday card?

Prison is dehumanizing in so many ways for those living it, but it warps all of our lives. It distorts and warps entire communities, and it’s perverted our nation and entire justice system when we incarcerate more of our people than South Africa did at the height of Apartheid. Former US Attorney General Eric Holder said that “we need to ensure that incarceration is used to punish, deter and rehabilitate – not merely to convict, warehouse and forget. Although incarceration has a role to play in our justice system, widespread incarceration at the federal, state and local levels is both ineffective and unsustainable. … It imposes a significant economic burden — totaling $80 billion in 2010 alone — and it comes with human and moral costs that are impossible to calculate.” Holder is partially correct. The stolen lives and stolen birthdays of the 2.7 million children with an incarcerated parent can never be truly calculated. However, I disagree that incarceration should play a role in our culture. I think with a little creative imagination and bold political leadership we can come up with a much more humane and just system that doesn’t rely on simply “warehousing” people. Unfortunately, we aren’t there yet.

As I approach my 47th birthday in a couple weeks, I do so deeply concerned about my own families future and the future of our country. I am deeply troubled and concerned because our new US Attorney General, Jeff Sessions, dismissed reports about police abuse without even reading them and he’s recently signaled his intention to bring back the failed war on drugs despite bipartisan agreement to end it and mountains of evidence that it’s an inherently racist policy used to target and incarcerate low-income Black communities. Add to that, we recently confirmed Neil Gorsuch to the US Supreme Court even though he has a deeply troubling record on police abuse. Gorsuch once ruled in favor of police in a police brutality case involving a 9 year old boy! There is real reason for concern when we are backing away from the very reforms needed to address the immoral and costly problem of mass incarceration. I can’t help but wonder, how much longer I will have to wait before I get to blow out the candles on my birthday cake with my father? How long should freedom take when you’ve already waited nearly 45 years?

If there’s a birthday card coming in the mail this year, I hope it’s filled with freedom too. We can get free together.

My birthday wish this year remembers my father’s battle for freedom, and it also includes a call for justice for the incarcerated moms and their children. Please consider making a donation, in honor of my 47th birthday, of $4.70, $470, or $4,700 (or whatever you can afford) to the Prison Birth Project (PBP) of Western Massachusetts. PBP is an anti-racist reproductive justice and advocacy organization that supports the anti-shackling campaign in Massachusetts. PBP provides full spectrum doula support for incarcerated pregnant women including other supports that help formerly incarcerated women stay free once released . You can make a donation to PBP here.

You can also write to my father and let him know you’ve not forgotten about him or his fight for freedom. You can write to him here: Robert Seth Hayes #74A2280 Sullivan Correctional Facility PO Box 116 Fallsburg, NY 12733-0116

Freedom is worth it.

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Hallmark Doesn’t Make the Birthday Card that I Need

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